Q and A #6: What keeps you going during the hard days?

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Q) What keeps you going during the hard days?

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Many different things help me through the tough times, but for me, the most important thing is trustworthy, close, single friends!!! There is nothing like having someone who is also in the same situation as you and can relate and give chizuk. If you feel as though you have no friends who fit that criteria look out to cultivate a relationship with someone who does fit the bill! I know it sounds hard, but it's so helpful for this stage of life! (I only met some of my closest friends a year ago!) Thank you again!  -SW

Good question! It really depends on my mood and what I feel like I need at that time, but here is what generally helps me: listening to lectures on Emunah and Bitachon, therapy, going away on vacation, buying myself something special, journaling, listening to music, venting to friends… -SK

What helps me is knowing that this is where I’m meant to be, but at the same time, knowing that Hashem can change my circumstances in the blink of an eye. 

I’m still meeting new people who suggest boys, and a suggestion can be made tomorrow who might be the one! 

 Speaking to friends who are in the same boat and we bring each other up…  sometimes it’s a drive or a short call, but that really lifts my mood. -RK

These two tips are probably the least original, but they work: Share with people who can understand some of what you're going through, such as another single friend or someone you know will be able to empathize. Don't keep it bottled up: share. And treat yourself to something nice!! Don't forget that you're allowed to cry. -KC. 

One thing that really keeps me going during hard times is Emunah and Bitachon. Knowing that Hashem is there, that he is watching over me, and that what he does is for the best, even if I don't know the reason. Additionally, what really helps me is that aside from davening, I also talk to Hashem. I talk to him while I'm driving, I talk to him in bed, I just talk. Sometimes, I have calm conversations about life; sometimes, I have emotional conversations where I ask him why and cry. Either way, it always helps me to keep that connection, talk to Hashem no matter what mood I'm in, and just let those feelings out. Having my feelings bottled up inside is never a good idea, and who better to speak to than the one who gave you the challenge?  

Also, I tend to cry to release emotions; others may have different ways to do the same. Whatever the way, I think it is important for one to embrace their unique way of releasing emotions and not be afraid or embarrassed to exercise them. It can really help in coping. Bottling up one's feelings is never a good idea. 

Lastly having a good family and friend support system and a good therapist. I had three different therapists before I found one I liked, so don't be thrown off if the therapist you find initially doesn't seem like a good fit. -TJ